Posts Tagged ‘dating’

Missionary Dating

September 1, 2011 Leave a comment

I’ve heard in many Christian circles that “missionary dating” is always a bad idea. I get their point, and I agree with their intent, but I disagree entirely with their choice of words. I will be the first to admit that it’s slightly pedantic as far as arguments go, but I think it’s worth some reflection.

When discussing missionary dating, most people refer to a relationship in which (at least) one person is in the relationship with the expectation of changing the other person. Whether it is that person’s faith, habits, or sensibilities, the bottom line is that one (or both) people in the relationship are perpetuating it with a desire for who the person could become instead of an admiration for the person who is currently with them. They would not be willing to spend the rest of their lives with the person as they are, but they are confident that they can mold them into an acceptable partner. I could not agree more that this is a HORRIBLE way to go about courting someone, but that is neither being a missionary nor truly dating. That is what I would call guerrilla catechesis. And it’s an insult to the dignity of both parties and the institution of dating. Read more…


Chris West at USNA

June 18, 2011 1 comment

During my senior year in college (2006), I was fortunate enough to have Christopher West come and speak to an open audience (both Catholics and Protestants who were interested) at my school about “God, Sex, and the meaning of Life.” He allowed us to record it and share as we saw fit, so there’s no copyright issue. Here is a link to the download if you want to check it out (about 90mb and 90 minutes long).

(note: the first voice you hear is the priest saying an opening prayer, Chris starts right after that)

also, while I still have space (over a GB), here is the link to the full video…