Posts Tagged ‘dignity’

Modesty- Helping a Brother Out

December 17, 2011 1 comment

I’ve touched on the topic of modesty in a few of my other discussions, but wanted to give it some more attention. This specific blog applies more to women and a separate one (entitled “Manly Modesty”) will be addressed toward the guys and address respecting emotional differences.

In order to appreciate the virtue of modesty, it’s important first to understand its origin and its end. In the beginning, man and woman were both naked and without shame. They could look at each other and, with complete purity of heart, desire wholly to give themselves to each other as a gift. There was no need for them to cover up, because the only message that their body spoke was an invitation to love. This changed when man and woman endeavored to disobey God and gain knowledge of evil. We read as a first order effect that they discovered that they were naked and immediately sought to hide their bodies. Once the possibility (or “knowledge”) of evil enters the realm of humanity, the need for fig leaves instinctively follows. We are endowed with an innate understanding of the amazing goodness (not just goodness actually, but “very good”-ness) of our bodies, so we naturally seek to keep them from any form of degradation. The more obvious reason for this desire is a personal need for protection, but there is also an altruistic logic. The fig leaves are a mercy for the other. When Eve recognized this possibility of being seen as a mere object of lust instead of a subject of love, she covered her body to protect both herself AND Adam. She knew that the love that she was made for would suddenly be a challenge for Adam and, in her longing for that authentic union, established and demonstrated the newly appropriate virtue of modesty.

Modesty, at its root, is the will to help others love you as they should. It’s a recognition that we are a family in this world and that we can (and should) help each other grow in virtue. True, the men in your life have a responsibility to look at and treat you as a sister in Christ  – as a person and not a mere object – regardless of how you dress or act, but why not help us out where you can? If it were solely a desire to protect yourself it wouldn’t be a virtue; it would just be self-preservation. Virtue, by its nature, must be rooted in selfless love.   Read more…


Christian Gentlemen

June 18, 2011 1 comment

For all guys who are man enough to put action behind the respect for others that we have been called to since the beginning of our creation. For all the guys who at least attempt to live out the awe of Adam when he first beheld Eve- the masterpiece of God’s creation. For all guys who realize that Christianity is about more than an hour on Sunday morning: Read more…


June 18, 2011 1 comment

To every woman I have ever know, and all the women that I haven’t:

There is a huge poverty of self respect these days, especially in women. Admittedly, that’s largely due to the fact that we men have been doing a horrible job of affirming the women in our lives. It also doesn’t really help that our society today defines beauty by a set of dimensions and symmetrical facial features. It seems to me that very few women these days realize that they’re beautiful. Of those that do, it seems that even fewer recognize their beauty as something deeper than their physical qualities

So for what ever little worth my input may be in your life, I just want you to know that you are BEAUTIFUL. Read more…


June 18, 2011 Leave a comment

I feel that one of the most common misunderstandings among Christians is the concept of humility. People usually see it as low self esteem or thinking poorly about oneself. Some Christians take the route of self-deprecation in the name of humility. They overstate their flaws, acknowledge no accomplishment, accept no compliment and pretty much look at themselves as worthless, thinking that this is what God wants from them. This couldn’t be further from the real call to humility that we are invited to. Read more…