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Missionary Dating

September 1, 2011 Leave a comment

I’ve heard in many Christian circles that “missionary dating” is always a bad idea. I get their point, and I agree with their intent, but I disagree entirely with their choice of words. I will be the first to admit that it’s slightly pedantic as far as arguments go, but I think it’s worth some reflection.

When discussing missionary dating, most people refer to a relationship in which (at least) one person is in the relationship with the expectation of changing the other person. Whether it is that person’s faith, habits, or sensibilities, the bottom line is that one (or both) people in the relationship are perpetuating it with a desire for who the person could become instead of an admiration for the person who is currently with them. They would not be willing to spend the rest of their lives with the person as they are, but they are confident that they can mold them into an acceptable partner. I could not agree more that this is a HORRIBLE way to go about courting someone, but that is neither being a missionary nor truly dating. That is what I would call guerrilla catechesis. And it’s an insult to the dignity of both parties and the institution of dating. Read more…

Christian Romance

June 19, 2011 1 comment

I read this a while back and it was an important influence for the time that I took discerning my vocation. I think it’s a message that most Christians can benefit from hearing because we don’t usually look at romance in this light. let me know what you think: Read more…